5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was Diagnosed With CancerThe Breast Cancer Site
No one thinks it’s going to happen to them. No one has the time to deal with the diagnosis, and no one can ever be prepared for how the cancer will effect their family – but ready or not, here it is.
This list of tips is a collaboration of personal experiences, and collective wisdom from around the web. So whether you have recently been diagnosed with cancer, or you know someone who has, this is something we can all appreciate and apply to our lives!
5. Tell your kids a truth they can understand
It’s the first thing that pops into your head after coming to terms with what just came out of your doctor’s mouth. Will my family be ok? How are we going to tell the kids? Obviously every family dynamic is different, but when you are the mother of children who still live at home, your plan of action needs to be set in place sooner rather than later.
The best piece of advice I’ve heard on the subject is to not hide anything, be upfront and honest. That doesn’t mean your 6 year old needs to know the size and origin of your tumor, or the details of the treatment plan. But kids are much more observant than we often give them credit for, and they will figure out what’s going on eventually. You should be the one to tell them, and be open for discussion. Some key points to hit up might be: you are sick, but it’s not contagious; you might not have as much energy to do everything you used to do, but you still love them; and most importantly, that they are loved and you will get through this as a family.