Issues at Home Pile Up as Redditor’s Sister Continues to Act Too Entitled
Living in a shared house requires every resident to be considerate of others. Whether you are family or not, be a helping hand when needed. Any relationship can never be a one-way street; otherwise, issues will pile up. There is no room for entitlement in a shared household. You have to contribute to certain tasks and think of others before deciding on living arrangements. If you are living with your family, errands usually aren’t done by just one member unless they are more capable of accomplishing it. Maintaining peace and harmony at home can be easy. Compromise, listen, be helpful.
For one single mom Redditor, she lives with a sister who won’t budge when asked for a small favor. Managing a house as a single mom is tiring already, and sharing a house with an entitled person adds to the exhaustion. OP had enough with her sister and couldn’t help but rant about her on Reddit. “I pay majority of the rent, and 95% of the food, cleaning products and household items are mine. I let her use it because we are sisters and I like to be nice. I also have done things for her like look after her very high-maintenance cats whenever she goes away (often with no warning). I have a very toxic relationship with my overbearing mother, who my sister tells on me to constantly.” Daydreambelieverof91 wrote.
Despite the nice gestures OP has shown, her sister still had the audacity to create issues at home. Every time OP asks her sister for help, she pretends that she doesn’t hear anything. One time, her 9-month-old vomited for about 4 minutes, and she requested a towel from her sister. But there was no action from her. Thankfully, OP’s four-year-old toddler was kind enough to grab a towel. “I then had to ask my sister to use her shower, as the drain in ours has been plugged for a long time, with my parents, the owners, refusing to pay to get it fixed. I can do a bath for the kids, but it takes about an hour to drain. Bub was really upset and screaming, and as I’d just used our towels to wipe up the vomit, I again asked my sister (who was right next to me on her bed) if she could please get me a towel,” she shared.
For the second time, the sister refused to help and called their mother. She continued to ignore OP until the inevitable confrontation happened. Daydreambelieverof91 asked her sister why she refuses to help and all she got was a why-should-I-help response. “I then asked her to stop telling on me to my mother every time she didn’t get her way, and she justified it, saying she’d been so nice to let me use her shower. I asked her if she was kidding. We then had more of an argument and have not spoken since,” OP added. The sister is definitely shameless. Redditors in the comment section pointed out a lot of things about her. Perhaps it’s time for OP to not allow that kind of attitude in their house.
“NTA. This sounds like a toxic situation though. You’re renting a home your parents own with your sister and no one in your family seems to want to be supportive otherwise. I would be trying to move out, get a rental that is in no way connected to your family, and stop expecting anything from them. In the meantime, I would just pretend your sister doesn’t live there. Don’t do her any favors and ignore her if she asks for anything since that’s what she does to you,” queenofcatastrophes commented. Indeed, choosing a place of your own is better than not getting any help at all. Since OP has been paying most of the rent, she might as well find an apartment suitable for her and her kids.
“If someone is not going to contribute substantially to household upkeep, then they’ll need to earn their upkeep in other ways. It sounds like she’s instead actively sabotaging the peace in your home and playing control games with your mother while freeloading. Put her in her place or throw her out to another place,” DragAdministrative84 wrote. People with the sister’s attitude should really see that the world does not revolve around them. OP’s next decision might be an eye-opener for her, especially if it serves her a lesson. Siblings normally fight, but this one does not need a time-out — she needs character development. Hopefully, the issue gets resolved so daydreambelieverof91 and her kids can finally feel at home.
